But you know what? Your mental well being is more important than all the questions above. You want to please someone by compromising your state of mind. How can one unhappy person make other happy? I used to be the same person earlier. I used to say yes to everything and every one thinking that it will make others feel good. But slowly and gradually, I found myself being pulled into different directions. It started affecting me negatively. That is when I decided to stop. I too, don't like to sound mean. But then, a point comes in your life where you have to set boundaries and start to say no.